Get A Reaction….not us!!
Sometimes an article just nails it…and this is one of them.[from “How To Say What You Mean And Make People Mad“]
“Isn’t that the best? I wish he could see me driving my radical minivan to the radical Cub Scout meeting. I think the poor man would be disappointed.”
You wouldn’t expect that someone who writes about work and leadership would get hate mail, but it doesn’t take much to rile people up.
All you have to do is say what you think. You are going to upset people just by sharing your views.
Back then, I hadn’t come up with the Reactionometer yet. The Reactionometer was the first dial that we created at Human Workplace when we started our movement in 2012. We wanted to show the normal distribution of reactions to any frame-shifting idea.
When you say what you think, some people will love it. They had been feeling the same way you had, but you spoke up and made that viewpoint real. Maybe they didn’t realize that anyone else felt the same way they did.
You put your ideas out there and let other people gather around — or run away. Some people won’t like what you have to say. Some folks will tell you to pipe down.
What does it mean when people tell you to hush up, keep your ideas to yourself and stop talking?
It only means that your words stimulated a fear reaction in them. Your idea shook them up and made them feel as though their world had been rocked.
I remember getting in trouble in first grade for asking my teacher, whom we called Sister, if the stories we were learning like Jesus in the manger and the loaves and fishes were true stories that really happened, or made-up stories like Grimm’s Fairy Tales, meant to teach us lessons.
I thought it was a reasonable question. I got sent to the bad-kid corner for the rest of the day and I missed recess.
The first step in finding your voice is to say what’s on your mind — your own opinion, not words somebody else fed you or taught you. That’s a big step right there. Many of don’t dare say how we feel, because we’re afraid of other people’s reactions.